Stop asking God to change your spouse

This is good. I am actually going to try it starting on January 1st.

Might blog about it a bit along the way, who knows?

While working on my book Cherish: The One Word That Changes Everything for Your Marriage, I interviewed a woman who told me about an amazing marital “exercise” she put into practice. She spent an entire year working on her husband’s Christmas present. What she did was write a journal that recorded something she was thankful for about her husband that particular day. These were very specific, day-by-day accounts of what the husband did and why she was thankful to be married to him: putting up the Christmas lights when it was very cold (December 7), coming home and playing with the kids after a long business trip even though he was obviously tired (Sept. 22), that kind of thing.

When she gave her husband the journal he immediately sat down and read it in one sitting. Later, when recounting this gift to a friend, he told him, “Reading that journal makes me aspire to be the man she thinks I am.”


Categories: Christianity

7 replies

  1. Ahhh, love that. Cultivating an attitude of gratitude is really wonderful for marriage, like an infusion. You elevate your spouse in your own mind too, so they become even more attractive to you. Attractive is fun….:)

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  2. Reblogged this on A Mom Looking Up and commented:
    I love this idea! I may do this not only for Hubs, but each of my kids too. We can all spend more time being thankful and looking for the best in our loved ones.

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  3. This is very interesting and a perfect example of one way the brain can be manipulated.



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