Here are five Bible verses that can change your marriage.
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
– First Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is more than a feeling. Love is a verb–it is what you do! Look at the cross to see that. Jesus died for us while we were still wicked sinners and enemies of God (Romans 5:8, 10). So how can we not love our spouse in this way, being kind and patient, bearing up, hoping the best, and enduring it all? But here’s what love is not: envious, resentful, arrogant, or rude. This verse is frequently used during wedding ceremonies. Why not look at these verses again and study them together as a couple (if that’s possible). It could strengthen your marriage.
“This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
– Ephesians 5:32-33
I included verse 32 intentionally because God sees the marital relationship between a man and a woman as reflective of the relationship between Christ and His church, where He was not only willing to die for her, He did and did so voluntarily! That means we, too, must die to ourselves in loving our spouse voluntarily.
“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.”
– First Peter 4:8
Real love forgives and covers grievances done against someone. This love must be earnest and sincere or genuine. That means love is not just going through the motions or words. Since we’ve had our sins taken away, we should also be forgiving of one another; naturally, that includes forgiving our spouse. If we can’t forgive our spouse, then we don’t really understand just how much we’ve been forgiven, and that is infinitely more than we could ever forgive others (John 3:16).
“I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love.”
– Ephesians 4:1-2
There is a lot of powerful theology packed into these two verses. We’re to walk worthy of our calling, meaning that this walk must be with all humility and gentleness. Humility should result in patience and bearing one another (or putting up with one another) in love. My wife puts up with me, and that’s saying a lot. So, obviously, a truly humble person is not easily offended (Psalm 119:165).
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
– Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
Since two are better than one, three must be even better, especially if that third cord is God. One cord is not strong. Two cords can unravel. But a threefold cord is not easily broken, even under stress and strain.
Every marriage is a miracle because two people of the opposite sex must learn to dwell with one another. And as you know, men and women are very different, so it takes that third cord, God Himself, to change a marriage and to help hold it together. That is my prayer for you and your marriage.